LONELINESS IS A PUNISHMENT FOR BEAUTIFUL PEOPLE?

Loneliness is not a punishment, it is a gift. Sitting alone is where the magic happens. It is in those moments of silence that you listen to your inner whispers and discover inner peace. You are learning to truly love your own company, and this journey is going to be powerful.

We all write our thoughts on social media, we intend to let the public that follows us know, whether it is populated by many and unknown individuals who have chosen us only because we are handsome men or beautiful women, that we suffer from this loneliness and express the need to escape from it without actually finding the virtual thread that allows us to get out of the labyrinth.

Often choices are made, real or virtual, with the aim of distancing those who are chronic disturbers, or those who write "I love you" to every woman or man they meet on social media. Harmful love because it does not exist. Getting attached to someone who doesn't fill your life is the biggest mistake there is, often the cause of divorces and separations with great pain to be taken into account regarding the children that arise from such unions, even if temporary - we will find out later that they are - ends in themselves but decidedly useless because they acquire the idea of ​​loneliness.

Even surrounding yourself with real or virtual friends on social media does not make us lose happiness, because each of them has a life of their own already marked, participates, maybe jokes with us, but still remains isolated from our worries and in fact isolates us even more.

What to do?

It's okay if loneliness makes you sad, these are valid feelings, but also temporary. Sometimes feeling isolated can be an opportunity to reflect on the types of connections we really need, consider that often you are not the only one to feel lonely, especially if you have joined people with whom you thought you could share your life and instead they take it over for their own benefit. It means that you haven't met all the people who will love and support you yet or maybe you've just crossed paths with them and trivially without getting to know them better, you've eliminated them or pushed them away from you. 

If going out and finding a sense of community is the last thing you want to do right now, that's absolutely right but be merciful and patient with yourself, you are unique and you deserve to be surrounded by people who truly recognize and celebrate it, not just because you're famous and hanging out with you opens all the doors or leads to large amounts of undeserved money, but because you should really count for something to them. 

There's someone out there waiting to find a friend like you, who's been following you for a long time, who never misses an opportunity to dream of a life with you, who always talks about you and gives themselves the strength to move forward dreaming of you. Don't underestimate that person, it's them you really need, they want you not because you're beautiful or famous, rich or poor, but because they have vibes and emotions for you that they don't feel with anyone else. 

Let go of the useless and false idea that no one cares about you, sometimes our loneliness can be what pushes us towards deep and meaningful bonds, the true love that has not yet arrived, and it does not matter if you are in your second, third or fourth marriage to realize that you have considered wrongly how to achieve happiness, you can always learn to treat yourself with the same love and affection that you desire from another person. You must behave with others in a way that they feel your presence and truly suffer your absence to the point of ardently wishing to be able to even just look you in the eyes.

Sometimes you may be misunderstood, but the right people will always understand you. Remember that even platonic relationships can be characterized by depth and emotional intimacy.   Take advantage of that time spent in apparent solitude that allows you to learn and grow as a person and you should not feel like a burden if you want the people in your life to show up for you in the best possible way. 

If your current circle does not satisfy you, you can look for new connections, your value is not determined by your sentimental situation, being your own best friend is a true talent and there is no better time to practice than when you feel hurt when someone disappoints us, even when we know it comes from a mistake of yours. Human beings are prone to making mistakes, everyone does, the important thing is to recognize that you have made a mistake and try to get out of an unpleasant situation that saddens you and causes loneliness. 

Prioritize friendships that make you feel good and be grateful for the people in your life who allow you to be yourself without excuses. Loneliness won’t last forever, but you will get through it too. 

Feeling lonely shouldn’t mean accepting less than you normally would or compromising your values, bonds don’t have to be deep and long-lasting to be meaningful and don’t underestimate the power of casual acquaintances maybe even through social media, even the one who seemed annoying or opportunistic could turn out to be precious to you.