Truly Love

Those who truly love you demonstrate it with tangible and significant gestures.

Love and affection are powerful feelings that, when true, are manifested through concrete actions. Those who truly love you don't just proclaim feelings, but demonstrate affection through tangible and meaningful gestures.

The Demonstration of Affection

Those who love you authentically don't just utter empty words, but put their affection into practice with daily actions that demonstrate their real interest and concern for your well-being.

1. Presence and Constant Support

One of the most genuine expressions of love is the constant presence and unconditional support offered by those who truly love. This pillar of authentic affection is crucial to the strength and strength of a relationship, creating a bond that overcomes challenges and celebrates the joys of life.

Presence in Crucial Moments: Those who truly love are present in the key moments of life, offering attentive listening and empathetic support.

Unconditional Support: In addition to physical presence, offers emotional and affectionate support, demonstrating genuine commitment through challenges and joys.

Sharing Joys and Sadness: Not only is he present during difficulties, but he also participates in celebrations, sharing joys and celebrating successes.

These elements form the basis of authentic love and represent the ability to be present and supportive, thus building a solid and lasting relationship.

2. Attention to Details

Attention to detail is a crucial aspect of expressing authentic affection. When it comes to meaningful relationships, the ability to notice and keep in mind the particular details of a person's life demonstrates genuine interest and warm consideration.

Here are some points on how attention to detail can manifest itself in relationships:

Observation and Memorization

Those who truly love make an effort to observe and memorize important details about their loved one. This can include small details such as culinary tastes, movie or book preferences, favorite hobbies, or even specific details related to special moments shared together.

Personalized Surprises

Using the information collected, lovers can create personalized surprises. These can be small attentions such as preparing a favorite dish or giving a long-desired book as a gift. Such gestures not only demonstrate attention to detail but also a commitment to making shared moments special.

Specific Support

Those who pay attention to details are able to offer targeted and specific support in times of need. For example, if you know your loved one's concerns or fears, you will be able to offer support that is tailored to the situation.

Active Participation

Attention to detail can also manifest itself in actively involving yourself in your loved one's passions or interests. Being present and actively participating in events or activities that are important to your loved one is a tangible sign of interest and affection.

Demonstration of Care and Consideration

Finally, showing careful attention to detail highlights deep care and consideration for your loved one. These gestures not only create a closer bond, but demonstrate a genuine commitment to building a meaningful and lasting relationship.

In conclusion, attention to detail not only demonstrates a deep and authentic interest in your loved one, but also helps to consolidate and strengthen the emotional bond within a relationship.

3. Empathy and Understanding

Empathy and understanding are essential aspects within a relationship, as they represent the ability to understand, share and respect your partner's emotions, thoughts and points of view.

Here's how these elements manifest themselves within a relationship:

Active Listening

Empathy and understanding begin with active and genuine listening. It means giving your partner full attention during conversations, showing interest in what he or she is saying without interruption or judgment.

Emotion Recognition

Being empathetic means recognizing and respecting your partner's emotions. This not only involves identifying the emotions expressed, but also sincere interest and respect for how your partner feels.

Partner's Perspective

Understanding empathy means putting yourself in your partner's shoes, trying to see situations from their perspective. This involves the ability to understand his/her point of view, even if it is different from your own.

Empathic Support

Being empathetic involves offering authentic and understanding support. This means being present and offering comfort in times of difficulty, demonstrating closeness and availability during times of need.

Respect for Emotions

Understanding empathy also involves a deep respect for your partner's emotions. It's about avoiding minimizing or belittling what you feel, accepting and validating your emotional experiences.

Collaboration and Compromise

Empathy and understanding foster collaboration and compromise. Recognizing and understanding your partner's point of view can facilitate conflict resolution, promoting open and constructive communication.

Relationship Growth

When both partners show empathy and understanding for each other, the relationship becomes stronger and deeper. These elements contribute to the creation of a solid and lasting emotional bond.

In conclusion, empathy and understanding are fundamental pillars for a healthy relationship. Showing respect, interest and understanding for your partner's emotions and experiences helps create an environment of trust, mutual affection and emotional intimacy within the relationship.

4. Support in Difficult Times

Supporting your partner during difficult times is a crucial element in relationships. Demonstrating genuine, solid support during challenges can strengthen the emotional bond and create an environment of mutual trust. Let's see how this type of support can be deepened.

Empathic Presence

Being present during difficult moments means being there for your partner in an empathetic and sensitive way. It's about offering attentive and understanding listening, without judging or minimizing the emotions felt.

Emotional and Affectionate Support

Showing support during difficulties includes offering emotional and loving comfort. This may involve hugs, caresses, reassuring words or even simply being physically close to provide comfort.

Being a Stable Reference Point

When your partner goes through difficult times, being a stable point of reference can be essential. Offering security and emotional stability can help your partner feel more protected and less alone during challenges.

Practical Help and Tangible Support

In addition to emotional support, support during difficult times can include practical help. This may mean assistance with daily tasks, solving problems, or offering resources needed to deal with the situation.

Listening Without Judgment

During difficult times, it is essential to offer listening without judgment. Your partner should feel free to express their emotions, concerns and fears without fear of being criticized or judged.

Providing Personalized Support

Each person deals with difficulties differently. Being sensitive to your partner's specific needs during these times and offering personalized support can be a great help.

Encouraging Resilience and Healing

Supporting your partner during difficult times also includes encouraging resilience and healing. Motivating your partner to overcome difficulties and look for solutions can be a key element in facing challenges together.

In conclusion, support during difficult times is a fundamental pillar of a strong and loving relationship. Showing empathetic, loving and practical support during times of difficulty can strengthen the emotional bond and promote greater intimacy and mutual trust within the couple.

5. Sharing Experiences and Interests

Sharing experiences and interests is an important element in relationships, as it fosters emotional connection, intimacy and a sense of closeness between partners. Let's delve deeper into this concept:

Shared Experiences

Sharing experiences involves participating together in significant moments in life, such as trips, special events or even daily activities. These experiences help create common memories that strengthen the emotional bond.

Common Interests

Having shared interests is a key element in building a solid relationship. Participating in hobbies, activities, or passions that you both enjoy creates common ground for spending time together.

Discovering New Activities

Exploring new activities together can bring excitement and novelty to the relationship. Experiencing something new can strengthen your bond and keep the excitement of mutual discovery alive.

Support and Involvement

Being involved in the other partner's interests is important. Offering support and involvement in your partner's passions shows interest and attention towards what is important to him/her.

Individual and Common Growth

Sharing experiences and interests can lead to individual and shared growth. In addition to promoting personal development, this sharing can also consolidate mutual understanding and strengthen the emotional bond.

Communication and Sharing

During shared experiences, communication is key. Being open in sharing emotions, thoughts, and experiences during these activities creates emotional intimacy and a deeper connection.

Strengthening the Bond

Sharing experiences and interests helps strengthen the emotional bond. Being present and actively participating in the other partner's life creates a stronger sense of closeness and connection.

In conclusion, sharing experiences and interests is an important pillar for stability and happiness within a relationship. This type of mutual involvement not only strengthens the emotional bond, but also enriches the relationship with new stimulation, personal growth and memorable shared moments.

Conclusion

The demonstration of affection is not limited to words, but is expressed through concrete actions. Those who love you do not hesitate to demonstrate their love with tangible gestures, constant support and a significant presence in your life. Recognizing these displays of affection can strengthen bonds and lead to a more satisfying and fulfilling relationship. Paying attention to these displays of affection can help strengthen your bond and cultivate deeper, more sincere relationships.

Still you, forever you ❤️

My heart is silent

hidden in a corner

behind the door of dreams.

He waits suspended

that time

bring a message

to the longed-for love:

it's a call to life,

it is a perfume of passion,

it's a profound thought

that spreads in the wind.

“Wind opens the window,

comes in like a summer breeze

on a winter evening

and brings the moment

where in one sentence,

in a gesture,

in a word,

my heart recognizes

the scent of his soul,

a sigh,

a whisper,

a night of love

already imprinted in the image

of his desires." (December 29th, 2023)

Don't ask the leaf not to move;

It can't, there's the wind.

Don't ask the sun to stop high and still in the sky;

It can't, the earth turns.

Do not ask man to live forever;

He can't, in the end there is always death.

Don't ask me not to love;

I can't, you're there. (December 19th, 2023)

Love is not about finding the perfect person, it's about learning how to see great things from an imperfect person...

The important thing is not to have

next to someone when

you ask her, someone who

you listen to yourself when you speak.

The secret is to have someone nearby,

someone who is there with you

even if you didn't ask,

someone who doesn't just listen

your words, but above all

your silences.

The important thing in life is not to do something 

but to born and let yourself be loved

In love, simple things are most appreciated, with feeling comfortable and safe. Don't need much more. Love is also needed.

When you fall in love with someone you are not interested in anyone else, and if you are interested in someone else it means you are not in love. ❤️

If I could give you one thing in life, I would give you the ability to see yourself through my eyes. Only then will understand how special you’re to me. Good morning sweetie I can't imagine life without you. You’re my soulmate, my best friend: what would I do without you?

I can tell you if I would come back to you it's also no guarantee that one day I will leave you and give you another nightmare. But is better one day as a lion than hundred years as a sheep!

I'm happy if you're jealous, just a little, like I am, but without exaggerating. Jealousy is necessary in love!

Love is not finding the perfect person, but learning to see great things from an imperfect person...

I fell in love looking in you for the point no one has detected, which is given as a gift only to those who scrutinize, listen with love. And I fell in love closely, but not too much, observing you from a sharp angle a little aside, next to a table, while the others talked.

I shouldn't have abandoned you and I shouldn't have left you, I was exasperated I know, and you were too, now it's difficult to recover but not impossible. Let's proceed by sight and in small steps.

I know you love me, but you are torn between your certainties and the many doubts that grip your mind. And not only this, also a fake friend who hate me and would like to take revenge (who laughs last laughs best). I am old but not stupid, and above all I have patience.

Women are heaven for the eyes, hell for the soul and purgatory for the wallet.

I would like to get over it but I can't, I miss her so much 🌹

It's a call for help, a scream that can't find ears or hearts to be accepted. I am a man who discovered to feel alone again, yet surrounded by many, not recognized in his humanity, in his fragility; trapped in the suffering of an unrequited love or maybe yes, it is requited, indeed I'm sure of it, but in a parallel dimension that hides and does not make us understand. A path in the dramatic representation of love. I'm not sure we understood how tiring it can be, in some stages of our lives, to be able to remind us how important it is and how much I need your presence in my and our mutual daily lives. Sweetie how do you want me to love you, if you don't want me to love you the way I want to love you? (May 15th, 2023)

Continuously evolving....

CHIACCHIERE A DUBAI

Come previsto è sostanzialmente fallito a Dubai l’ennesimo meeting climatico (“COP 28”) che al netto di slogan, chiacchiere, buoni propositi e gridi d’allarme si è spento nel nulla. Si è parlato di “momento storico” perché in qualche frase della risoluzione finale si ipotizza una progressiva uscita dai combustibili fossili, ma è evidente che si tratta di pura “fuffa & propaganda”.

Mentre in Italia adesso va di moda colorare di verde fiumi e lagune, oppure spennellare di arancione i monumenti storici è ora di chiederci il perché il mondo non sappia dare risposte globali.

Sostanzialmente perché ha fame di energia ed il modo più spiccio (ed inquinante) per produrla è continuare a bruciare carbone e petrolio, preferibilmente il primo.

Un po' assurdo – tra l’altro – organizzare il meeting climatico proprio a Dubai, iper-moderna città cresciuta grazie alle royalties petrolifere e allo sfruttamento di milioni di poveri lavoratori asiatici, ma dove l’unica volontà di eventualmente ridurre l’estrazione è legata a mantenere i prezzi del petrolio i più alti possibili.

Saltano all’occhio dati che in Europa ostinatamente ci nascondono. Per esempio che produrre un chilowattora in Italia costa oggi 61 centesimi di dollaro, in Cina 9 (nove!). La Cina arranca, cresce meno di prima ma cresce comunque, anche perché - oltre a salari da fame - produce ed utilizza energia a basso costo. Che poi per produrla si inquini è considerato elemento secondario.

Mentre in Europa si vola nel firmamento degli angeli green, in Cina si continuano ad aprire nuove centrali (a carbone!) e ora i grandi stabilimenti vengono costruiti addirittura “dentro” le miniere riducendo così i costi energetici fino a solo 4 cent di dollaro per kilowatt.

Può mai reggere una acciaieria a Taranto rispetto ad una concorrente cinese? Ovvio che no, ma quando tutto l’acciaio - così come le componentistiche - saranno prodotte in Cina e in pochi altri paesi, chi comanderà il mondo?

Ma come si può mai pensare che un dittatore come Xi Jinping, alle prese con una potenziale crisi economica interna, si possa permettere di ulteriormente rallentare la già incerta crescita del suo paese (almeno rispetto ai nostri parametri) aumentando il costo dell’energia e quindi dei suoi prodotti finiti, rendendoli meno competitivi?

Nessuno – e tantomeno Xi – salvo obblighi stringenti lo farebbe, ma nello stesso tempo lo squilibrio energetico è tale che oggi l’Italia paga l’energia 7 volte di più della Cina e - come buona parte dell’UE - esce di mercato.

Noi siamo infarciti di demagogia e così l’UE è una narcisa fanciulla che si considera la prima della classe e produce leggi su leggi, limiti su limiti, ma di fatto continua ad aggiungere solo costi su costi senza incidere minimamente sull’inquinamento globale.

Perché questo il punto: l’aria si muove e pur con tutti i suoi sacrifici non migliora in Europa se peggiora in India e – globalmente – peggiora e si scalda comunque. Certamente bisognerebbe obbligare tutti a rispettare degli obbiettivi, ma poiché questi limiti non solo non si concordano. ma soprattutto non si applicano è ovvio che alla fine perde chi è debole (noi) e non chi ha il carbone o il petrolio sotto le scarpe.

Il ministro del petrolio kuwaitiano, Saad al-Barrak, ha definito la pressione UE per mettere progressivamente al bando l’energia prodotta con fonti fossili un “attacco aggressivo”, accusando i Paesi occidentali di “Cercare di dominare l'economia globale attraverso le energie rinnovabili (!!)”. Secondo lui si tratta di “una lotta per la nostra (la loro!) libertà e i nostri valori”.

“Dobbiamo dare l’esempio” si sostiene invece a Bruxelles (mi sembra però con voce più flebile), ma ancora una volta Dubai ha clamorosamente smentito che questo “buon esempio” abbia un minimo effetto sul pianeta e soprattutto sia condiviso.

Gli altri sono più pragmatici: Trump addirittura urla “Trivellare, trivellare!” ma già oggi un kilowatt - che costa appunto 61 cent in Italia- negli USA ne costa solo 14, contro i 24 della Francia e i 44 della Germania, oppure i 42 della Gran Bretagna e i 12 dell’India dove si brucia alla grande, ma secondo astruse statistiche green gli indiani sarebbero ecologicamente più “avanti” rispetto all’Italia.

Visitando l’India non mi è proprio sembrato.

Ma come mai i nostri vicini europei spendono meno di noi? Perché in Francia buona parte dell’energia proviene da fonte nucleare, con la sublime ed inimitabile nostrana ipocrisia di acquistarla poi proprio dai francesi dopo che abbiamo distrutto con un referendum la nostra produzione interna. Ma anche Svizzera e Slovenia il nucleare se lo tengono stretto, mentre in Germania, Regno Unito o Polonia è il carbone a farla da padrone, piaccia o meno a chi colora di verde il Canal Grande e - chissà perché - non va a fare le dimostrazioni in Germania.

Penso con rabbia a quante centinaia di miliardi di euro ci è costato quel referendum sul nucleare poi caparbiamente difeso per decenni contro ogni logica solo per pura demagogia e cocciutaggine dalla sinistra, senza semmai invece pensare a come realizzare centrali più moderne e sicure, come è avvenuto in tutto il mondo.

E qui la sorpresa – l’unica – che è arrivata da Dubai è stata la rivalutazione ufficiale proprio dell’energia nucleare e la richiesta del suo rilancio generale alla faccia degli antinuclearisti nostrani.

Danno e beffe, insomma, oltretutto mentre Putin può sorridere a 32 denti: non è stato piegato dalle sanzioni, ha nuovi amici nel mondo e - anche dal punto di vista energetico - ha gravemente danneggiato l’economia dei “nemici” europei molto di più che non con le bombe su Kiev.

Qualcuno, in Italia e in Europa, avrà mai il coraggio di scendere a terra dal beato mondo dei sogni e fare finalmente i conti con l’amara realtà?

Delirio collettivo: basta femminicidi

Quando un tragico fatto di cronaca nera viene trasformato in uno show mediatico si genera una vera e propria morbosità perdendo le dimensioni umane e sociali del problema.

Il caso di Giulia Cecchettin ripropone un problema che, almeno statisticamente, va ricondotto in termini complessivi corretti.

Per esempio si è detto e ribadito (senza arrivare al delirio di definirli addirittura “delitti di stato”, definizione comprensibile solo per il dolore della sorella della vittima, ma immediatamente sfruttato dai media e vergognosamente da alcune parti politiche) che per ridurre questi crimini occorrerebbe una serie di interventi legislativi e culturali.

A parte la nuova legge passata mercoledì anche al Senato, si è parlato di un delitto di “patriarcato” e la solita Schlein chiede di introdurre nei programmi scolastici la materia “Educazione dalle relazioni”.

Ricordando sommessamente che tutto il percorso pedagogico della scuola dovrebbe puntare proprio a questo, vanno però anche conosciute le dimensioni vere del fenomeno a sottolineare che - se prendiamo le statistiche disponibili a livello europeo in alcuni paesi considerati “progressisti” e pro LGBT+ - i femminicidi sono, rapportati alla popolazione, molto di più che in Italia.

Quanti sanno che in Lettonia vi è una percentuale di 4,09 casi annui su 100.000 abitanti rispetto allo 0,4 % dell’Italia, ovvero dieci volte tanto? Anche lì c’è un oscuro o bigotto “patriarcato” meloniano? Invece i casi sono molto meno numerosi nel sud dell’Europa che non in Germania, Francia, Croazia, Austria o Slovenia mentre il paese più “sicuro” per le donne è la Grecia con addirittura solo 0,16 casi ogni 100.000 abitanti e le proporzioni non cambiano se ci si limita a considerare i casi legati a conviventi o ex conviventi.

E’ ovvio che i delitti sono sempre tragicamente troppi, ma è difficile pensare che interventi legislativi possano incidere molto sui numeri assoluti del fenomeno, mentre il dato più allarmante è piuttosto che il 46% delle donne uccise nel 2022/23 si sarebbero precedentemente rivolte – evidentemente invano – alle Forze dell’ordine per denunciare violenze o minacce, ma la denuncia non era servita.

Più che il numero dei morti in sé si pone quindi il problema della violenza domestica che è da prendere molto di più in considerazione del singolo omicidio-show tenuto conto che moltissime donne probabilmente sopportano e non denunciano: avere il coraggio di farlo conoscendo i propri diritti e i comportamenti da tenere dopo una denuncia è il vero primo passo per salvarle.

In generale – come sottolinea una attenta ricerca di Openpolis - nonostante un’opinione diffusa legata a troppi film sulla mafia - l’Italia non è una società intrinsecamente violenta, perché presenta comunque il secondo dato più basso d’Europa per incidenza degli omicidi sul totale della popolazione: 0,48 ogni 100 mila abitanti, ben al di sotto della media Ue (0,89).

Anche per quanto riguarda gli omicidi di donne il dato italiano è inferiore alla media Ue (0,38 contro 0,66) ricordando che in Italia si è passati complessivamente dai 1442 omicidi del 1992 ai circa 700 l’anno all’inizio del nuovo secolo per scendere oggi a meno della metà di cui circa un terzo a danni di donne. Contano evidentemente la netta diminuzione delle stragi di mafia e di camorra con omicidi quasi sempre tra uomini.

Chiaramente vi sono fatti che più colpiscono la sensibilità e l’opinione pubblica, ma anche che “fanno audience” innestando lo show e la speculazione politica.

Anche perché, secondo i dati statistici del 2021, per esempio i giovani tra i 15 e i 24 anni morti in incidenti stradali sono stati più di uno al giorno (e i feriti ed invalidi uno sterminio): non sarebbero allora ben più urgenti corsi di educazione stradale? Eppure tra le vittime della strada nella fascia di età tra i 15 e 19 anni il numero di morti per milione di abitanti si alza a 51, in quella tra 20 e 24 (ovvero i neopatentati) addirittura schizza a 74, valori ben al di sopra delle medie continentali.

In questo triste conteggio gli omicidi rappresentano comunque meno dell’1 per mille delle morti in Italia, meno del 10% rispetto ai morti sulle strade e tutti gli omicidi non sono che un quarto rispetto ai morti sul lavoro (che superano ampiamente il migliaio) tanto da chiedersi se non sia più utile focalizzarsi piuttosto anche sulla prevenzione di queste morti che troppe volte ricevono ben poca attenzione dai media.

LET THOSE KIDS SEE

We never show the children's faces because of "privacy" and sometimes this makes sense, other times the choice is because those images could upset us. Perhaps we all need to see the disfigured faces and torn bodies of many children who suffer, killed or torn to pieces after attacks or bombings. It would help us better understand the horror and injustice of war by (finally) disturbing our delicate conscience.

I would also have liked to see the face of little Indi Gregory who would probably have died soon anyway, but for whom the British "justice" had to do its utmost to deliberately make her die immediately. When she was also taken off oxygen, she still lived (suffering?) a few hours.

It's always a question of conscience: if you have to take the life of an 8-month-old baby girl, then why keep alive terminally ill or elderly people, or injured people with no more hope? Be careful, because if we continue at this rate - without giving an ethical meaning to life - we will only care about those who are "suitable", "can serve", "can do it" (or have the money to be kept alive).