LET IT GO

Don't go back to where you were happy one day, it's a trap of melancholy, everything will have changed and nothing will be the same as before, not even you.


Don't look for the same landscapes, nor the same people, time plays dirty and will have taken care of destroying everything that once made you happy.


Don't go back to the place where you were happy one day, always keep it in your memory, as it was, but don't go back.


Life goes on and there are new roads to travel… new places to visit and other people waiting for you. ❤️

Anna forever

Anna you left a mark on my mind I can never erase. 

You took a piece from my heart that no one can ever replace. 

No one could replace you. 

You're the eye in the storm, you're the piece I'm trying to find. 

When I'm sad, when I think, when I work, when I walk all alone through the sunny streets of Saigon or in the shopping malls, you're the only one on my mind. 

I will search for you until I find you again. 

I know you know it. I don't know what else to do. 

I lost the chance to love you, you are the one who rejects me, you have eliminated me from your mind as well as from your life. 

I have been alone in my dreams, but I have always looked for you, I need love in this place, you are the only one I knew, the only one who is capable of repairing my loneliness. 

I let myself be carried away by the wind, I hope it carries me into your arms. 

The only place where I am safe, only you can heal my scars

The only one to save me I'm walking on the deep blue sea

I will look for your lighthouse to lead me. 

I don't want to lose my love for you.

Missing you

“Missing each other is already belonging” I read this morning on Facebook. A quote from the writer Lailly Daolio that led me to some reflections that I would like to share with you.

Feeling of lack

The feeling of lack is one of those we feel most ardently in our lives. We miss a loved one, a friend, a parent or a child but we also miss countries and places, situations and feelings. Is it belonging? Yes, what we are missing is certainly part of our life and our existence. It was or is.

The feeling of emptiness generated by lack makes us understand the strength of a feeling and the value a person has in our life. The shortcomings related to the family are self-explanatory: undoubtedly the absence of a child or a parent are very strong feelings we all feel for good reasons - a departure or a journey - and for less beautiful reasons - mourning or separation due to events, a voluntary separation of one of the parties – in any case it is a shortcoming.

Loss

The loss of the loved one is intense and wonderful. It could mark us a partner away for work but also a lover who we cannot see or hear. The person who decided to interrupt the stretch of life together is missing. Equally important is the lack of places - where we lived or where we were born - or of feelings and situations - lack of love, friendship or sense of family -.

How can we live with this sense of emptiness generated by lack? Of course it depends on the situation. If we talk about the loss of a deceased person we must necessarily feel pain and then let go of this feeling. The person who is no longer with us has left something very important in our lives. If we come to miss them, therefore, let's not forget the beautiful moments we spent together.

Every now and then let's take refuge in those memories, in his words, in his teachings or in his hugs but let's do it with a smile and not with the pain of no longer having them. I quote this phrase from Saint Augustine I love very much: "Let us not despair at having lost a loved one, but let us rejoice at having had them".

If we miss a person in the family because they have decided to end the relationship - unfortunately this also happens - then we owe it to ourselves to metabolize this abandonment and then let go of any feelings of anxiety, fear and anger associated with it. Negative feelings don't make us feel good and don't even bring us back to reconnecting with that finished relationship. Let's avoid crowding our minds with questions about how it is possible for a father to abandon a son or a mother to leave a daughter in difficulty.

We can never know the aspects of that person's mind. What we can do is love each other, seek contact at the beginning - especially because he will make us feel like we have tried everything - and then dedicate ourselves to our happiness. There is happiness even without those people. It exists if we want it strongly, if we cultivate it, if we look for it in what is next to us. In most situations it happens that too focused on understanding why that relationship ended we lose sight of the wonder and gifts that life has given us. A person who loves us, a child, health, the magic of emotions.

Love

And now we come to love. Missing your loved one is the first step to understanding that person has true value for us, they belong to us. We miss her looks, her words, her messages, her smile, her caresses and hugs. We miss her and we find her in every song, in every film, in every word read in a book.

It's like that, it's part of love. What to do? We must rejoice if this feeling is part of a relationship that works and that does not make us miss the feeling of being the most loved person in the world. Even if the lack generates a void, the awareness of being part of one whole with the other person must make us feel good.


Especially if we know – and we always know – that the other person misses us too. Let's think back to the last hug or kiss and stay there for a while... smiling and enjoying those wonderful sensations. This helps us overcome the lack until the next hug.

If the relationship is not reciprocated, we need to change our attitude, a nice turning point and we start again. Let's not stop where there is no happiness for us. It is not fair to ourselves and the life we have been given.

We don't deserve unhappiness and we must always feel true and sincere love in our lives.
The one that overwhelms you and makes you unexpectedly emotional. The one that makes you get up in the morning thinking about the person you love and knowing that they are thinking of you. The one that keeps you physically distant but united in heart and soul.

If this is not there, that journey is not made for us. We have to get off the train and do it as soon as possible, before the right one can pass alongside us without stopping.

The finished love. This is very complicated. Here we need to recover all the strength necessary to be able to love ourselves to the point of understanding that that story is over and we cannot keep ourselves anchored to an idea that belongs to the past. The end of a marriage, a cohabitation, an engagement or a simple relationship is not a failure.

It is important to impress this in our minds because it is the first block we impose on ourselves. We made a piece of life together with that person but now it's time to close and look beyond. The lack, especially in the case of long relationships, is often dictated by habit. No longer setting the table for that person makes you feel empty, just like no longer seeing the toothbrush in the glass or not having a person to organize Sunday with.

The kiss goodnight or the complicity in preparing breakfast in the morning is a lack. Missing the daily phone call and chatting before going to sleep. Well, this is often what's missing. An idea of family, of couple, of shared everyday life. But this is not love. L

love is missing breaths, kisses, hugs, smiles, gestures and words that only that person could give us. Talk to yourself: if emotions are missing and love is no longer reciprocated, you know what to do; If, however, daily gestures are missing, then work on habits and insert new ones into your life. The first few days are difficult but give yourself a month and you will find yourself setting the table counting the right guests without even thinking about who is missing.

The idea of love and happiness shared with another person can be reconstructed with the new. But we must be ready to welcome it…

Places

And, finally, if you miss places and countries near or far. Well, go... take a trip to recover the wonderful emotions that they give you or move if you think that your life elsewhere could be better.

Still you, forever you ❤️

My heart is silent

hidden in a corner

behind the door of dreams.

He waits suspended

that time

bring a message

to the longed-for love:

it's a call to life,

it is a perfume of passion,

it's a profound thought

that spreads in the wind.

“Wind opens the window,

comes in like a summer breeze

on a winter evening

and brings the moment

where in one sentence,

in a gesture,

in a word,

my heart recognizes

the scent of his soul,

a sigh,

a whisper,

a night of love

already imprinted in the image

of his desires." (December 29th, 2023)

Don't ask the leaf not to move;

It can't, there's the wind.

Don't ask the sun to stop high and still in the sky;

It can't, the earth turns.

Do not ask man to live forever;

He can't, in the end there is always death.

Don't ask me not to love;

I can't, you're there. (December 19th, 2023)

Love is not about finding the perfect person, it's about learning how to see great things from an imperfect person...

The important thing is not to have

next to someone when

you ask her, someone who

you listen to yourself when you speak.

The secret is to have someone nearby,

someone who is there with you

even if you didn't ask,

someone who doesn't just listen

your words, but above all

your silences.

The important thing in life is not to do something 

but to born and let yourself be loved

In love, simple things are most appreciated, with feeling comfortable and safe. Don't need much more. Love is also needed.

When you fall in love with someone you are not interested in anyone else, and if you are interested in someone else it means you are not in love. ❤️

If I could give you one thing in life, I would give you the ability to see yourself through my eyes. Only then will understand how special you’re to me. Good morning sweetie I can't imagine life without you. You’re my soulmate, my best friend: what would I do without you?

I can tell you if I would come back to you it's also no guarantee that one day I will leave you and give you another nightmare. But is better one day as a lion than hundred years as a sheep!

I'm happy if you're jealous, just a little, like I am, but without exaggerating. Jealousy is necessary in love!

Love is not finding the perfect person, but learning to see great things from an imperfect person...

I fell in love looking in you for the point no one has detected, which is given as a gift only to those who scrutinize, listen with love. And I fell in love closely, but not too much, observing you from a sharp angle a little aside, next to a table, while the others talked.

I shouldn't have abandoned you and I shouldn't have left you, I was exasperated I know, and you were too, now it's difficult to recover but not impossible. Let's proceed by sight and in small steps.

I know you love me, but you are torn between your certainties and the many doubts that grip your mind. And not only this, also a fake friend who hate me and would like to take revenge (who laughs last laughs best). I am old but not stupid, and above all I have patience.

Women are heaven for the eyes, hell for the soul and purgatory for the wallet.

I would like to get over it but I can't, I miss her so much 🌹

It's a call for help, a scream that can't find ears or hearts to be accepted. I am a man who discovered to feel alone again, yet surrounded by many, not recognized in his humanity, in his fragility; trapped in the suffering of an unrequited love or maybe yes, it is requited, indeed I'm sure of it, but in a parallel dimension that hides and does not make us understand. A path in the dramatic representation of love. I'm not sure we understood how tiring it can be, in some stages of our lives, to be able to remind us how important it is and how much I need your presence in my and our mutual daily lives. Sweetie how do you want me to love you, if you don't want me to love you the way I want to love you? (May 15th, 2023)

Continuously evolving....

Chemistry of love

I'm falling in love? It may be, even if it's too early to say, in fact I've only known her for a little over a week and I haven't met yet even though I think about her constantly, and I don't know what her feelings are. But many signals tell me something could be born, I just have to understand if my brain thinks good.

Let's see with this article why we end up falling in love and what determines the state of being in love. After all, it seems to be just a question of chemistry, or maybe not?

Romantic films enchant us, two pigeons cooing on the roof opposite make us stay dreaming at the window, listening to the song of our first kiss in a completely unexpected way can move us, but love - regardless of how much we like to idealize it - does not it is nothing more than a sophisticated form of corruption of which we are all unaware victims.

Anecdotally, love is a matter of the heart. However, the main organ affected by love is actually the brain. Where is love “found” in the brain, and what does it do to our minds and bodies, according to science?

In reality, love in its various typologies (romantic, erotic, maternal) has rarely been the subject of scientific investigation in the past; in part, this may be due to the fact that love has always been the domain of poets and artists; perhaps psychologists and clinicians, but it has certainly not been taken into great consideration in the field of experimental science, i.e. neurobiological research.

Therefore, our knowledge in this field has yet to evolve and only recently has research brought to light detailed information on the molecular and physiological "ingredients" of the phenomenon of love.

The role of dopamine

The passion of love arouses feelings of euphoria and happiness that are often overwhelming and indescribable, because when we fall in love it is as if a chemical storm has been unleashed in the brain.

And the areas that activate in response to these feelings are the regions of the brain that contain high concentrations of a neuromodulator associated with reward, craving, addiction and euphoric states, namely dopamine. Dopamine is released by the hypothalamus, a structure located deep in the brain that serves as a link between the nervous and endocrine systems.

Love is a mutual giving and receiving of something very gratifying and therefore dopamine is produced both when we receive something pleasant from our partner and when we gratify him by transmitting our love to him.

The release of dopamine brings about the sensation of “feeling good” in several respects since dopamine appears to be linked not only to relationship formation but also to sex, which is considered a rewarding and “feel-good” exercise.

Another property of dopamine is that it is initially released only at the moment of excitement, but then the brain gets used to releasing it even before excitement, in anticipation of a hug, a kiss or even the simple presence of a loved one.

The role of serotonin

An increase in dopamine levels is also associated with a decrease in another neurotransmitter, serotonin. In particular, studies have shown a marked reduction in serotonin especially in the early stages of falling in love, just as occurs in patients suffering from obsessive disorders . Love, after all, is a kind of obsession , in its initial stages the thought is incessantly directed towards that single individual, he or she with whom we are falling in love; just as actions and behaviors are directed towards the purpose of getting closer to the partner.

This can therefore give us a "biological" reason why people in love tend to fixate on the object of their affection, narrowing the field of interests and thoughts to very little else.

Furthermore, precisely due to a reduction in serotonin levels, a substance involved in the process of mood regulation, if on the one hand we experience that intense euphoria mentioned above, on the other we are easily candidates for falling prey to anxiety and to sadness if we notice signs of rejection from the desired partner.

The role of nerve growth factor

The initial stages of falling in love also seem to correlate with another substance, nerve growth factor. This was found to be higher in those who have recently fallen in love than in those who are not in this condition or who have had a long-established relationship. A significant correlation was also found between nerve growth factor concentration and intensity of feeling.

The role of other neurotransmitters

Our nervous system also releases norepinephrine, the substance responsible for the physical effects of passion (feeling of heat, sweating, increased heart rate, tremor, insomnia ) which complement the sense of emotion and excitement.

Finally, in love passion, the production of endorphins increases which promote well-being and relaxation in a climate of stability and trust.

The seat of love: the brain areas

In human history we have always tried to identify the part of the body where emotions are formed, but today scientific research has given us the true seats of feelings and emotions. In fact, neuroimaging tools such as MRI (Functional Magnetic Resonance Imaging) are used, which help us understand which brain areas are activated when we are in love. Some of these areas are located in the cerebral cortex itself and others are located in subcortical stations. They all make up parts of what is known as the emotional brain.

First we consider the hypothalamus, which we mentioned above in connection with the production of dopamine. Studies conducted on this structure have highlighted that the activation of the hypothalamus occurs both when experiencing feelings of "romantic" love and with sexual excitement, but not when we have feelings of "maternal" love.

An element of great interest was the discovery that these regions have inhibitory connections with other areas of the brain. That is, the frontal cortex, and the amygdala, a structure located at the apex of the temporal lobe.

Therefore we are witnessing the phenomenon whereby an increase in activity in some areas involved in love determines a decrease in activity in other cortical areas, with the consequences that we are going to examine.

Cortical deactivations and suspension of judgment

It is common observation that the all-encompassing passion of love is often accompanied by a suspension of judgment or a relaxation of the criteria of judgment with which we evaluate others. This critical ability is precisely a function of the frontal cortex. Its inactivation explains why, when we are deeply in love, we suspend the critical judgment that we apply in other contexts to evaluate people, situations or our behaviors.

Others are often surprised by certain choices made by those in the early stages of romantic infatuation, finding them irrational and incomprehensible. Indeed, in this particular emotional state, rational judgments are suspended or no longer applied with the same rigor. In this phase of the love story, the partner appears perfect , without defects, the only person to whom one wants to give attention and love.

Nor do moral censorships exist, because the ability to judge in moral matters is also attenuated, since morality is also associated with the activity of the frontal cortex.

The madness of love

Euphoria and suspension of judgment can generate states that other people might interpret as a form of insanity. This is the madness celebrated by poets and artists and certainly the neurological explanations of a deactivation of the brain parts involved in the creation of judgments helps better understand the obvious irrationality of love.

Nietzsche wrote in Thus Spoke Zarathustra: «There is always a little madness in love. But there is always a bit of reason in madness"

This reason is to be found precisely in the patterns of neurobiological activation and deactivation expected in love. These serve a sort of “higher purpose,” which aims to unite (otherwise unlikely) pairs to increase the variability of the species.

However, it should be underlined that if people in love suspend judgment on the people who are the object of their feelings, they do not necessarily suspend judgment in other fields. They might, for example, be perfectly capable of judging the quality of a book or scientific work.

Suspension of judgment, when it comes to love, is selective and acts on a very specific set of brain connections.

The other area of ​​the brain that undergoes a deactivation process during falling in love is the amygdala. A structure that coordinates responses to fear, helping human beings to stay as far away as possible from potentially dangerous situations.

Its deactivation leads to a reduction in responses to fear , with the consequence of putting oneself more easily in risky situations in order to be with the loved one.

But how long does the passion phase last?

According to the most recent studies, this "storm" of chemical transmitters lasts from 12/18 months up to about 3 years.

Then, inevitably, everything returns to normal. Sadly normal for those who need to experience love as an experience that is continually out of the ordinary. Hence the tension towards a new subject who can trigger those mechanisms of well-being, in search of another three years of happiness.

(I am not a doctor, nor a researcher, so much of this article, excluding personal reflections, was collected from the web. If anyone thinks I have broken any copyright rules, please tell me and I will immediately delete the text in question.)

The Second Chance

One of the worst parts of the acceptance of an apology is to decide whether or not we want to give the person who hurt us to have a second chance at life. Everyone deals with conflict differently, and our own experiences accumulated, our ability to forgive and move on.

With the offer of forgiveness or a second chance at life, it's a difficult situation, and it requires responsibility, maturity, and the input of both parties.

It makes sense to focus on your feelings, and if someone is doing something bad, but try to understand the context of the person’s activities to be able to help you in the process. This is not an excuse for them, and that it's not to devalue your feelings, but it also adds a context to their work, but you can make it easier for you to at least try to express empathy and to offer forgiveness or to move in the forward direction.

As hard as it's, the practice of forgiveness and a second chance at life will help you to grow as an individual. Learn how to get to “choose your battles”, it will help you to understand the solving the conflict is well worth the effort.

Life is too short to do all the bad ways of doing this. Of course, the best solution is to, in some cases, walk away, especially when it’s to correct the situation itself may lead to further damage. However, when you have become full of repentance for what it was, giving a person a second chance, can lead to a better outcome.

Think of the times when they were forced to ask for forgiveness or have a second chance at life. Why did you do this? Because it is a second chance at life, a chance to be a better person and develop as a person. If you want others to be able to see this kind of growth potential in you, and you will need to ask them if they can see the potential in the other person.

Try to keep the treatment in a negative situation as a learning opportunity. You can also learn how to avoid negative situations, but you can also learn how to be a better messenger to them-for both the person who you want to be forgiven, and you will be able to meet each other later in life.

An insult is like an emotional anchor. This will make sure that you are in a swimming pool, the negatives, and it drains you emotionally. Forgiveness and a second chance at life to be your wind, and the sails to move forward.

To deny a person a second chance, you have to deny yourself of the peace that comes with forgiveness and moving forward. Free yourself from the burden of it because it is not for you.

Times when it’s Okay to Give a Second Chance

1. If It is More Than Just Love

Not just by anyone, but only because of your love for each other. There has to be something more than love. Of course, this is one of the most important factors in a relationship, but don’t forget about trust, loyalty, and respect for each other. When love is all that holds you together but do not have that, any other issues, do not give your partner another chance. If you have a solid foundation for a happy and healthy relationship, you need to consider it to have a second chance at life.

2. If It is Severe Enough To Destroy Your Foundation

The decision to give your partner a second chance in life, depends, really, on what they have done to get to that point in the first place. If you have the feeling that what he was doing was not serious enough to destroy the foundation of the relationship, it’s worth taking the time to think about it. There has been some resentment that the destruction of the relationship, and there is no going back. However, other things are a pair of close-by. If you feel like that’s the last one, of course, is to do whatever your heart (and mind) will force you to do so.) be happy.

3. If Actions Speak Louder Than Words

To find out whether your significant other is still a window of opportunity, you waive all of his or her actions. The words are nice, but to be honest, sometimes they don’t mean anything. If your partner says that he or she is going to change, but there has been no action to prove it, so why should I trust him or her? It’s good to get your significant other to have a chance to work with you if you have the feeling that he or she is making a big effort to find out what he or she deserves.

4. When The Both Of Them, Are Determined To Make It Work

Give your partner a chance, therefore, that there is hope, it is that what has happened is the first time it won’t happen again, but the old patterns of behaviour, don’t stop. We have to actively work to change the dynamic. If you are committed to making things work, and a trip to the therapy doesn’t make you want to jump out of the window, you don’t get another chance at what you love is hot.

5. When A Lesson is Learned

If someone does something bad it is, how do we know that they will not have to re-do it? As a rule, they do not do so because they have learned their lesson. However, if your partner has to conclude what he was doing, and now that she knows how to do it right, it’s good to have a second chance at life in order. If you feel you have to ensure that he or she does not understand the consequences of her actions, it just means that you need to learn about — and, unfortunately, nothing is going to change.

6. If They are genuinely Sorry

I am Sorry, but that does not work here. To profoundly move forward after you have done something wrong, you need to be aware of your role in this. They need to understand the pain that they have caused and are sorry.” If your spouse is not regretting what he did, what is it that keeps him or her from doing it again? It is the difference between an apology and an honest mistake. You will find out if your partner is being honest about your excuses. If it is genuine enough it will work out.

Love over sixty between false myths and reality of the body and heart

Heart pounding and shortness of breath. The hands that tremble, the passion that flares up. Common sense that turns into irrationality. The burning feeling that obliges one to do and say unspeakable things and apparently not in keeping with one's age. Emotions that become feelings and thoughts that detach from reality.

A recurring thought, which is a candidate to become an obsessive thought. These and many others are the symptoms of falling in love. And they are ageless. Among the urban legends about love, one unfortunately reigns supreme: youthful love can be passionate and irrational, it can overflow the banks of conscience, while adult and grizzled love absolutely not, it must wear the shoes of prudent love .

A common voice correlates the passion and elitist feeling of love to the chronological age of the protagonist of that couple bond; therefore, the ability to love after the "antas" is considered a risky, imprudent choice, bordering on recklessness and indecency.

This is a great falsehood, because the verb to love does not know age, skin color or gender. The average age has considerably lengthened, many diseases are treatable today, and aging is no longer combined with a worsening of psycho-physical health conditions.

The quality of life has improved globally, therefore, today's fifties and sixties correspond to yesterday's forties; and love and sex life belongs to the concept of quality of life.

To love, to get excited, to donate psychic parts of oneself and to get involved again, is an unequivocal sign of the fertility of existence.

Prudent love versus love and that's it

The word love doesn't go well with the term prudent, rational, weighted. Terms that clumsily and forcibly are associated with grizzled bonds. But does love age? A love without tachycardia and a good dose of enthusiasm, based on common sense and reasoning; a love that does not transform and that does not transform itself, that does not shift the barometer from reason to loss of control, is a sort of bad copy of the original feeling.

True love is not age related, but depends on many other elements that are sometimes present, other times not, regardless of age. There are prudent loves among young people and all-round loves among the over forties, and vice versa.

The homeopathic doses of feeling and the fear of letting go of love do not depend on the age of the protagonists of the couple bond, but on the defense mechanisms of the psyche, on how the partners were nourished in their respective childhood lands, and if they have really been nourished, by how much and how they are willing to invest in the couple's journey, and by that indispensable dose of healthy madness that belongs to those who really love. Love seduces and scares, so often, at all ages, short-term love affairs are preferred, with high emotional intensity, but with a low level of effort.

Youthful loves follow one another and represent the trials and errors of becoming an adult. Often fleeting, sometimes intense and destructive, other times they are ferry loves : they wear the clothes of Charon and help to pass through the land of adults. Grizzled loves are more aware loves.

Loves that have overcome the obligation to aesthetic perfectionism, able to let themselves be overwhelmed by the waves of emotion, without bumps and without too much slow motion.

Love and caution: alibi or reality?

The theory of caution at a certain age is quite frequent and sadly in use. Many protagonists of shipwrecked loves imagine their sentimental and sexual life as if it were a sort of flat calm. Thoughtful. Perhaps crowded in terms of the quantity of meetings to the detriment of the emotional quality because it is risky.

A sort of love multitasking that facilitates a multi-level relationship life, but prevents its depth. There is nothing more wrong. The sacred fire of love doesn't deal with the registry office, with the first wrinkles and graying hair, instead it characterizes courageous loves.

The bold. Those who still have so much to say and give themselves, ready to invest again and again, with a heart without fence walls, with a good dose of boldness and vitality, without reservations and without the most acrobatic strategies to balance emotional balances .

In love there are no budgets, accounts with the abacus or emotional compromises. There are no costs and benefits, who gives more and who less should reign supreme the ability and desire to love and be loved, in any season of life.

The emotions experienced at a certain age take on a more intense meaning, because they force us to come to terms with ourselves. As adults you shouldn't lie to yourself, you should already know what you no longer want from life and, why not, what you still want. Loving at all ages is the most powerful of the elixirs of life , because pleasure always remains a sentinel of life.

Love over sixty between false myths and reality of the body and heart

Grizzled loves create conflicting emotions: some shun them, some praise them. There are those who challenge biology and want to become a parent. Who has been in the past, but he was too young to be aware of and fully enjoy the joys of parenthood and want to try again in hindsight.

They are not tired bonds, characterized by emotional and sexual asthenia; they are bonds nourished and warmed by the awareness and playful relationship with sexuality and sexual health. They are certainly not lukewarm and bored loves, they are instead highly emotional bonds, with butterflies in the stomach of a teenager and a grateful gaze towards the life of an adult.

Many sixty-year-olds today have already crashed against the rocks of previous shipwrecked marriages, but despite the wounds of the heart they hope to be able to love once again, with the secret hope that this time is the right time.

Experienced couples, bored couples?

Not at all. They are couples who have substituted fear for the fullness of life, lack of knowledge of themselves and their partner for a more in-depth reading of the dynamics that characterize the couple's relationship; all warmed up by an empathetic and authentic dialogue.

This emotional climate nourished by a good relationship with oneself, with one's body and with one's world of impulses, makes the over fifty excellent lovers, who experience sexuality in a playful and conscious way, without the anxiety of performance and possible conception.

Loving extends life

Love with its hormonal and emotional bath extends life. Many studies show that over 65s in love live longer and in better health than singles, divorced and widowed people.

Salt and pepper hair does not correlate with the early retirement of love life and with life under the sheets, but with the courage to start over. Many men and many women are no longer satisfied with the half measures of living love: they close exhausted relationships, cut the dry leaves, and start over.

With enthusiasm, with love, with the heartbeat of falling in love, sometimes with a wedding ring on your finger. The desire to love and to love well survives the wear and tear of time that dusts everything and becomes a true cornerstone of many existences.

A love advanced in years has the power to make peace with love, takes on a repairing meaning, and is the healthy bearer of a great transformative force capable of healing the previous wounds of the heart.

Age does not protect against the fear of loving and from love, but love, on the other hand, protects against advancing age.